So, I guess you're the guy that is going to toughen this girl up and show her what it's like in the real world? You don't get a PHD by slacking off. Be nice, and if that's hard for you, try not to be such a dbag when someone else is trying to help someone out. Sorry you had a bad day, man.
he may not think that getting a phd is difficult work. it may not be physically difficult work, but it is academically arduous for some people. but then again i'm friends with a guy who's a life long academian. has 2 phds by the time he was 29. he's definitely the studious type and he makes it look easy. but give him physical labor and he folds like a deck of cards