The hammer has to have the appropriate curve radius or it will not function with a ramped bolt correctly. The DPMS style hammer is typically good to go a notched hammer (Rock River) or specialty hammer will often cause you problems.
You can use a 9mm AR hammer with an unramped bolt and forgo the issue but then it would be dedicated to 9mm and you couldn't swap .223/5.56 uppers without changing the hammer.
I'll try to post picks later but your issue is the hammer and I'll bet money on it.
sounds pretty legitimate to me sir.. Here's some pics of the Geissele trigger in the gun, spare hammer assembly that came in the lower and DDLES bolt carrier. Let me know if the spare hammer is like what you've mentioned... Thanks for your input