Love mine. Longer sight radius. Less snappy than p365. Really like the flat trigger. Because of the design it holsters easier than the p365. With the 12 round mag the p365xl has a mag drop a lot quicker than the p365 with a 12 round mag.
Underwood Lehigh extreme defender in 65 gr. It is a little pricey but I think it is the best. Midway sells it. Underwood manufactures this using lehighs projectiles.