You can make the connection without ever mentioning preparedness. Just be a good neighbor and be willing to go just a little out of your way to have a friendly relationship with those around you. You don't need to be buddies, but at least make a good impression on them.
I get that. I'm fortunate that the last two places I've lived I've had what seem to be good folks living around me for the most part. If they are competent with weapons or dealing with a tough situation is unknown, but that's what training is for.
Though I don't reveal my preparations to them, I get to at least casually know some of my neighbors. If there's any warning that things are going South I'll advise them go stock up with non perishables and then come see me. I have enough equipment and weapons to make quite a little "neighborhood...
Focus on being able to renew resources endlessly and understanding how to survive on just them.
A single seed is worth more than 100lbs of preserved food if you know how to grow more food from it.
I know what freeze dried food is. I have a ton of it. Now explain how you will make more of it once the power goes out and the SHTF. The point I'm making is that once the disaster has happened you have lost this asset that you invested so much in.
Yeah, I'm thinking long term and sustainable use after the SHTF. The amount of food I have in storage for just one year for seven people is phenomenal. So much more than you realize until you really start calculating it. Once that food is secured it's very important to invest in the things...
Is depending on the availability of electrical power a good idea? Have you considered canning? For that cost you could have a damn near industrial canning set up.
Not meaning to be overly critical, but you exhibit possibly the most deadly trait for survival. A very negative attitude. Sure, it will be a huge change of lifestyle and more physical work that many are used to, but it can also be extremely rewarding. A simpler lifestyle and bonding together of...
There are some great instructional books about medicine, dental, etc. in a situation that is somewhat primitive. Good info to have around and a good idea to get the tools recommended in the books...
That's why I said it needs to be large enough. We're about due for a really bad one and our electrical systems and dependence is far more vulnerable than when the last one hit in 1859.
https://www.space.com/7224-150-years-worst-solar-storm.html
And don't forget that an enemy attack is only one way we can get hit by an EMP. The other is a large enough coronal mass ejection. We have no control or defense against them and they have happened before.